SENSE of Happiness

I love reading the Prosperous Writer Ezine by Christina Katz. This week her article focused on number 17 of the 52 qualities of a prosperous writer: Happiness. When I think of the word happy and being happy, a scene from the movie Legally Blonde pops into my head. The law students are working on a case and sitting around a conference table with their professor. They are discussing the probability of a woman's guilt of murdering her husband. Elle Woods speaks up and says "Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people don't shoot their husbands."

I like to think that anything a person loves to do and does so passionately releases a "happiness factor". It may not be endorphins per se, but it always makes them feel better. I love attending my local Zumba class. The Latin inspired music and the exuberance of my instructor always inspires me. After the class, I may be physically exhausted but I leave the class with a sort of happy peace. Every night I write at least 750 Words on the 750words website. I write about various subjects or vent frustrations. Afterwards, I sometimes feel mentally exhausted but I still achieve the "happy peace". I also agree with Christina, that the most deeply unhappy people have no idea how their negativity impacts others. Unfortunately, some of us have experienced this first hand. Something in their lives makes them so terribly unhappy,they feel they must play your emotions until you are on the same level. The closer this person is to you, the harder it is to keep your happy mind frame. This has always been a difficult situation for me to overcome.

Catherine Pratt of Life-With-Confidence, says after listening to negative person tell their horror story, ask them to tell you something positive. I think tomorrow I will ask the people I deal with to tell me something positive that has happened to them, just to see their reaction. Positive for me is the thought of building my new desk, seeing the family this summer, and my son's promotion. Nothing that is earth shattering but these thoughts still make me feel a sense of happiness.

What's the SENSE of stressing?

Christina Katz, of the Prosperous Writer had an article in her ezine this week about staying grounded. The question she asked her readers was what keeps you grounded?

In my daily life, grounding comes in the form of short periods of quiet time throughout my day. I actually enjoy the 45 minute commute to and from work during my work week. I take this time to listen to The Secret, an audio book by Rhonda Byrne, if I am in an introspective mood. On the days my mood is more whimsical; I will listen to A Christmas Story by Jean Shepherd. My mp3 player has playlists such as Jazz, Easy Listening, and rhythmic Zumba tunes. I have playlist for every mood or situation. One of my favorites is a playlist encompassing many genres and dedicated to songs about Rain!

My day begins at 6 am and ends on most days at 10 pm (even on weekends. I have dogs that need to go out!) My job in a small IT department for a large company can be stressful at times. My days are comprised of many phone calls, meetings, projects, repairing computers and requests from users. Keeping a to-do list, utilizing software specific for my job, organizing my inbox, and using Evernote, helps keep me on track. Evernote syncs with my Iphone and allows me to access critical data without starting my laptop. As I move about our facility and speak with computer users during the day, I type any notes, requests, or comments into my phone and then sync it with my laptop later. I have a playlist entitled music without words that I play softly in my office, fragrant scented oils and a live plant to make my office more appealing to me.

I often check daily writing prompts before the workday begins. I contemplate these prompts during the walks from office building to office building or when installing software packages takes a long time. The ideas that spring from these prompts are later fodder for my evening writing or jotted in my little idea notebook for later use. A lively Zumba class with friends three times a week also relieves stress.

I am interacting with computers in some way all throughout my day. There are emails that require action or response and machines that must be opened and repaired. Questions requiring research or prompt answers. All of these are part of my daily routine and by utilizing all of the tools at my disposal in an effective way, I can combat stress. At 4 o’clock each weekday afternoon a reminder on my phone alerts me that it is time to finish projects, clean work areas, and gather the necessities for a productive tomorrow at work.

I tackle the anxiousness of fulfilling the creative side of my life by completing at least 750 words a day at the website 750words.com. These words may be totally random, a rant about some frustration, a short story, a memory or most often scene and character ideas. As I use specialized software for my work day, I use writing software to keep my creative ideas in order and flowing. Completing these 750 words gives me a daily accomplishment, whether I have worked on my WIP or not. This process leaves me calmer, more focused and often inspires me to open my software and add notes, ideas and even dialogue. Making time to read one of the 8 books beside my bed before I go to sleep also keeps me grounded. Taking a few minutes to write about the high points of the day, the things I am grateful for and even my hopes and dreams ends my day on a peaceful note.

To maintain a productive creative life, I depend on tools such as blogs, ezines, workshops, twitter, chats, and email groups. The successes of others are there not to compare myself with but to learn from. Someday, somewhere, somebody might learn something from me. I am grateful for others who take the time to post links they have found or blog about a technique that works for them. Just as I interact daily with IT peers, these tools allow me the opportunity to interact with other writers both new and experienced.